Weight doesn’t matter!

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I think I have FINALLY come to the conclusion that how much I weigh doesn’t matter. It’s no secret that I have a love-hate-and more hate relationship with my weight. It seems that no matter how much work I do, I don’t lose any weight.

For the entire month of April, I worked out 6 days a week. That may sound excessive to some, but it was simply doing something active whether it was going for a walk or doing a half hour of cardio. For most of the month, I did an exercise plan designed by Blogilates, a certified Fitness channel on YouTube. I’ve enjoyed the month of being more active, challenging myself with the exercises and overall, getting stronger.

During the month, I told myself I wouldn’t weigh myself. In fact, I hadn’t weighed myself in a while before then, at least a couple of months. Now that I think about it, I don’t know why I thought weighing myself was a good idea. Maybe it was just wishful thinking that the scale would reflect how good I was feeling. It did not. I was feeling pretty good about myself until I got on the scale and saw that I weighed 238.6 pounds. *gasp* I gained 10 pounds since my last weigh-in!!! I looked at the scale, like, seriously? I didn’t even lose a pound. This made me reflect on the month. Should I have eaten better? Eaten less fast food? Maybe I should have worked out more?

You want to know what my answer is to that? A resounding no! I worked out 6 days a week and that’s hard enough without also depriving myself of any food worth eating. Of course, I don’t gorge myself or eat more than I need to. I feel like I’m eating a lot better with the occasional fast food day, so that makes the lack of weight loss that much more depressing. And I know what you’re thinking, I should consider a diet. I’ll be honest, I enjoy life and food way too much to starve myself on a diet. I refuse to, so I won’t. Sure, my body isn’t as toned as I’d like and I’ll never look like a supermodel, but I’m happy and I’m getting in better shape than I’ve been in a while. Besides muscle weighs more than fat so there’s a good chance I’ll weigh more no matter what I do.

When met with a problem(like weight loss), you have two options either fix it or accept it. I’ve learned to accept my weight and my every bit of cellulite. This doesn’t mean I’ll stop working out, but it does mean I’ll stop stressing out about it. Worrying about my weight is doing nothing for my self-esteem and worrying is definitely not going to make me lose weight any faster, so, say it with me, “Weight Doesn’t Matter!!!”

Join the conversation: How do you feel about weight loss, exercise and all things fitness? Does weight matter to you?

<3 My

M<3: Favorites of the moment

I haven’t posted  M<3: Book Recommendations in a while. I’ve been lazy about posting them here and also am trying to limit the number of posts I do each week. The recommendation on top of my regular post was getting a little much, but if you still want to read about the books I’ve been liking, they’re on my goodreads page here.

Now to make up for slacking, I’m going to let you all know what I’ve been loving so far this year.

Favorite Movies

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Beyond the Lights: Wanted to see it in the theaters when it came out and I finally got to see it this year. Loved it so much!!!

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The Book Thief: So poetic. The script was so beautifully written. I couldn’t believe how amazing it was. I tried to read the book and it was a little difficult too read, so I saw the movie instead. Now, I might have to read the book because the movie had me and the book is usually better.

Favorite Books

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Meant to Be: I already wrote how much I loved this book on goodreads. Check that out here.

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The Fault in our Stars: This book was great and twice as good as the movie which is what I saw first. The review is also on goodreads. Check it out here.

Favorite Hair Products

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Moisturizer: Simply put, my scalp gets dry and I need to moisturize. This is the absolute best moisturizer I’ve found.

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Shampoo and Conditioner: It’s a shampoo and conditioner in one. Do I need to say more?

Favorite Places

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My inspiration corner: I’ve done a post about this before. It’s a corner across from my bed that has loads of inspirational quotes. I read them every once in a while to keep me motivated.

 

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Library: Do I have to explain why I love the library? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

Favorite Normal Person Activity

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Exercise: I’ve been working out 3 days a week since late January and I’ve actually kept up with it. If you know me, you know (1) my relationship with exercise/my weight and (2) my inability to keep up with anything, so my keeping up with exercise is amazing. Especially since I’m enjoying myself and am even considering working out everyday. I can see the progress and I’m ready to do more.

Favorite random activities

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Learning new things: I’ve been learning German and how to write in shorthand. Why am I learning these? No idea. Will I use them in the future. No idea either, but I like learning new things and doing something I wouldn’t normal do.

What have you been loving so far this year?

Until Next Time!
<3 My

 

I’ve had a revelation…

Now don’t get excited and think I’ve figured out the cure for the common cold or the meaning of life. I’ve just gotten a step closer to better understanding what the heck I’m doing with my life. Get ready for a story:
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In two months, I would have been out of college for a year. In the ten months since I’ve graduated, I have been focusing on my writing and self-published my first novel. I am also currently working on the second book of the series. Sales of the first book have been okay, nothing earth-shattering, but still amazing when I realize that there are people out there reading my book. I would have been happy selling just one book, but sadly, I can’t live off of one book’s sale. I’ll talk more about that later.
When I graduated, my parents, mostly my mom, convinced me that I needed a year off to regroup, focus on me and my writing, and really think about what I want out of my life. So, I moved back home and spent the year doing just that. The ideal situation would have been that in the year, I finish my book, publish it, and then reap the benefits. The entire year, I was hoping for the ideal situation even though realistically, according to a publishing axiom, it takes about 3 books for an author to gain traction and get noticed.
Right now, I only have one book under my belt, so it’s unlikely I’ll be reaping many benefits anytime soon. Of course, I knew this year was supposed to be about me chilling out, but I couldn’t help wanting amazing book sales, too. I mean, who wouldn’t?
I’m an optimist (maybe sometimes to a fault) and when I graduated and started working on my book, my thoughts were all best case scenario and my book was going to sell amazingly. In reality (the enemy of the optimist), sales were slow and to be honest, it was beginning to stress me out. I thought the low sales were my fault and that I wasn’t doing enough or didn’t know enough about the craft or the business to be effective. Needless to say, it has been a little disheartening even if I have that publishing axiom in my mind and obviously know I probably won’t be discovered overnight. But where you’re expecting great sales and don’t get them, no amount of axioms and logic can make you feel better and on top of that, my year was a complete break meaning I haven’t been working so I could focus solely on my writing. So, that means I have low sales and no money. Luckily, I live at home and don’t have bills/rent/food to pay for, but still, it’s depressing. It’s depressing just writing this , but I promise this story is about to get a lot more positive real soon.
Where was I? So, I was sitting there, a little depressed, not sure what I should be doing next and then… I watch a YouTube video.You should already know my love of YouTube, but I don’t think I have ever found a video that I spoke to me as much as this one did.The video was words of wisdom from Casey Neistat, a filmmaker. Here’s the link if you would like to watch it in its entirety: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxatKNdEw8w.
About 2 minutes in was what spoke to me. Casey said, “I always made a living so I could make movies. I never made movies to try and make a living. And I think that is a big mistake that a lot of newcomers do is that they focus on how can my passion pay me. And I think that is a terrible place to start. If the reason why you’re doing anything creative is to make a living, then you are doing it wrong. You get into it because it is a true passion. It’s something you believe in. Or don’t get into it at all.
I saw the video and it was like all of the lights came on. I was looking to my writing to make me money and to make a living when it would probably be a little easier to make a living so I can write. It made so much sense that I wondered why I hadn’t figured it out before. And just because I start working doesn’t mean I’m giving up on my writing. It just allows me to save up for what I need and  write without being a starving artist or having to stress  about sales. This way writing stays my passion and my love and I’m not looking to it to be my only source of income. I can write at my own pace without worry. I’ve been stressing myself out worrying about sales and writing as many books as possible, but now I know better and will do better.
I’m not sure who this is for. Maybe I just needed to write this out. Maybe there’s someone else out there in a similar situation that’s now comforted to know someone else is going though the same thing. I’m right there with you and am currently working for freelance writing jobs to “make my living.” If you happen to know of any, please send them my way. I’ve been doing a lot of searching on my own already, so if you all want, I can compile a list of all of the freelance job sites I’ve found into a blog post. Just let me know. I hope this post has helped someone and you all have enjoyed another peek into me trying to figure out my life.
 Until Next time!
<3 My

It’s okay not to post

I’m letting you know now that this post is going to be short. It might not even have a picture. I think I’m going to use this post as a reminder that it’s okay not to post. If a day or a week or even a month goes by and I haven’t posted then that’s okay. This blog isn’t my job, it isn’t a source of income, so I don’t technically have to post. If there isn’t anything I want to write about, I don’t have to post. If I’m just not feeling it, then I don’t have to post. I think I’ve gotten it in my head that I have to be consistent and I have to do this and I have to do that, but at the end of the day, this is supposed to be fun. If I force myself to do it, even when I don’t want to then it’s going to become a chore and I don’t want that. If you were hoping for a consistent schedule with engaging content all the time, then I am really sorry to disappoint you. Part of me thinks that because there are so many readers of this blog, I should be consistent and have regular content, but consistent is how I define it. Consistent is once a week, once every two weeks, once every month or even every three months. I am not stapled down a schedule (I think you all know how I feel about schedules) and I should be able to decide how often I post and if I get busy, be able to post less frequently.  If you’re wondering, I’m not saying this because of a comment I was given. I am just incredibly hard on myself when it comes to this blog, but I’m learning (and I hope all of you are okay with this) that it is okay not to post. When I post, you’ll have something funny and quirky to read and if I don’t, you have over 200 other blog posts to read and a plethora of other social media I’m on to explore. In all, I think that’s fair.

From your quirky writer friend,

My

P.S. I think I’m going to change up my ending from time to time, let me know what you think.

 

M<3: Last Look Back by Lara Sean (Book Recommendation)

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Before we begin, you can read the complete summary of Last Look Back on goodreads.

This recommendation is a little different from my others. Unlike my other recommendations where I tell you my thoughts on a particular book, I’m going to share what people are saying about my book, Last Look Back by Lara Sean. I could rave about my book all day, but I think it has more clout when you hear it form someone else, so here you go:

“I love to read all types of books and every once in a while look for a good mystery/thriller story. When I received my copy of Last Look Back, it did not take me long to get involved in Octavia Steele’s life journey. Mid-way through the book, I found myself unable to put it down and realized it was 2:00 a.m. in the morning! I honestly had to force myself to read one chapter a night until the last 3-4 chapters. I finally finished the book at 3:00 a.m. that morning. Seriously! I know that I am not the only one who truly enjoyed this book and is anxiously waiting for the next one.” -Phyllis P.

“Last Look Back is a novel that kept me captivated from start to finish. I found myself immersed in a new type of mystery with twists that you’ll never see coming. This is a novel written for those who love the world of espionage, romance, and suspense all merged tastefully into one.”               – Mi’chelle W.

“Last Look Back is an exciting story that follows the main character, Octavia “Vie” Steele, and her journey to reclaim her life. Vie’s quirky attitude, strong mentality, and loyalty to those around her makes her a lovable character. The story is not predictable. It has different elements that draws readers in. I had a great time reading it. It kept me on the edge the entire time. I was engulfed in figuring out how Vie would turn out in the end.” -Dominique J.

The reviews above have been used with permission and is their honest opinion of my book.Little to no edits have been made to their original statement.

Last Look Back is available for purchase. The paperback can be found here and the ebook can be found here.

From the #1 Rule-breaker,

My

Finally getting the hang of this…

As I progress in my writer journey, I am learning how much of a business it all is. I’m not sure if I’ve said this before, but the business side has not come as easy to me as the writing side has. That’s probably because I’ve been writing a lot long, but I think you understand where I’m going with this. Throughout my writing journey, I have searched the web for advice on how to sell my book and have found myself inundated with words like business plans and marketing, all of which is Greek to me. Sadly, this means I haven’t done as much marketing as I should have been doing. I stumbled upon an article a few days ago and then the light bulb when and I suddenly got it. I saw that I was looking at the wrong one. Since marketing is such a foreign term to me, I let that discourage me from doing what I needed to do.  Now, 4 months after my book’s been published, I think I have a better understanding of this marketing thing and I’m so excited.

Jeremy Renner is also very excited that I finally got the hang of this.

Jeremy Renner is also very excited that I finally got the hang of this.

Before, I saw marketing as having as many social media platforms as possible and post frequently or at least consistently on them. I see now that that is only a part of it. If I want to sell my book, I first need to know the people I’m selling my book to. I can’t just post and expect all of the work to be done. I need to interact with prospective readers and fellow writers. I need to build relationships and get my name out there. That’s what’s going to sell books. So, the plan is to be even more active on the social media site that I am on. I need to go further than just posting a lot. I need to comment on posts that interest me and strike up conversations with authors if only to pick their brain about the craft. When I look at marketing as just a fancy word for networking, that makes it significantly less daunting and a lot more doable.

For the social media that I have, I am going to spend at least 15 minutes a day commenting on posts and interacting with people. The way I see it, I’m on social media at least an hour every day anyway. At least this way, I’m being more productive and getting my name out there. The only foreseeable issue is that I spend too much time and stick with whatever time limit I choose. I need to protect my writing time and ensure that my “marketing” efforts do not not encroach on the time I need to spend on my work. It  might be a good idea to figure out a schedule and see what works best for me. I will probably share the schedule so you all can get an idea of how much time I’m spending on social media. You can also let me know if what I’m doing is effective or if I need to try something else. I appreciate any feedback you can give me.

From the #1 Rule-breaker,

My

Goodbye “Storytime with My!”

It’s time we’ve said goodbye to Storytime.

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As we say goodbye to another project, it’s got me thinking. I recently read an article about what makes people ditch a book, but what about what makes a writer ditch a project they’re working on. Is it that the project is too ambitious or overwhelming, too boring, too normal or are they just not feeling it anymore? For me, the last option is usually what causes me to give up a project and that’s why Storytime is going bye-bye. The novelty of doing a story every week has worn off and now the show as a whole is becoming more work than it’s worth. The short stories aren’t serving a purpose other than I have  4 more short stories to my collection and the show isn’t serving it’s original purpose either. It was supposed to be a break during the week, but is a lot more work than I first imagined and hard to keep us with, so I think it’s time for me to say goodbye.

If you’ve been following me for a while, or really just the last few months, you know I go through phases. I get really excited about a project or schedule and before long the excitement inevitably wanes. Despite the number of times this cycle has happened, I still find myself feeling bad about it. That I should stop giving up on projects and stick with it. But then the other side of me says that if I’m not feeling a project anymore then I should let it go. If I make myself do it, the creativity will suffer and then what’s the point. I’m a person that needs to try a lot of things before I settle on one that I like. I believe my blog is a testament to this trying and you all get a true view of what I’m like and what my process is like. Plus, I can promise that depending on the day, you’ll always find something different and I’m sure that as a reader that’s what you want. I’m glad that even though there are numerous projects that I’ve worked on, the overall framework of the blog hasn’t changed. Throughout each cycle, I’ve gotten better as a writer and found projects that I like while figuring out which projects weren’t the best for me. It’s a process that I’m thoroughly enjoying and that I don’t plan on changing. It’s who I am and I accept that.

Give it some time and “Storytime with My” might be back. This might be goodbye for now, but that’s depends completely on you all. If you’ve been enjoying “Storytime with My,” speak now and I’ll start it up again. It’ll be less frequent, but on a consistent basis, probably sometime in April. For the month of March, I’ll be working extra hard on my manuscript so the second draft is done by April and I can work on book 3 for Camp Nanowrimo. Yes, I’m doing Camp Nanowrimo for the first time this year. I’ve never been to camp so I’m extremely excited for this new virtual experience. Whether I decide to bring back Storytime or not, the responses I’ve done so far will be added to the Short Stories tab which you may have noticed in the menu above. There you will find all of the short stories I’ve written on this blog in one convenient location. You’re Welcome.

From the #Rule-breaker,

My

P.S. Looking for a good book to read? Let me recommend my book,  Last Look Back for your consideration. The paperback can be found by clicking here and the ebook can be found  here.

M<3: The Devil Wears Prada by Lauren Weisberger (Book recommendation)

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I finished The Devil Wears Prada right before I finished Secrets. If you want an in-depth summary of what The Devil Wears Prada was about, you can find that here.

Now for my thoughts: I wasn’t sure how I was going to feel about this book, but I’m pleasantly surprised that I liked it. Scratch that. I am utterly amazed by how much I liked this book. I loved how we are able to see Andy (or Ahn-dre-ah’s) growth throughout the book and how by the end, you see her finally stand up for what she believes in and what she stands for. I won’t give away any spoilers though I really want to, especially about the ending. I loved the ending that much and literally wanted to applaud Andy for what she did and how she stood up for herself. I may or may not have given it away. You’ll have to read it to find out. Also, and I may be the only one that feels this way, but I hated the Alex character (Andy’s boyfriend.) I know he’s this perfect guy and he’s totally understanding, but he annoyed me to no end. He had this self-righteous, pretentious, holier than thou thing that rubbed me the wrong way. This doesn’t take anything away from the book and was one of the few things that I didn’t like about this book. Other than that, it’s a good read and I’m sure you’ll find something you’ll love about it.

If you read it or have read it, tell me what you thought in the comment section below.

From the #1 Rule-breaker,

My

P.S. If you can’t wait for my next recommendation on this blog, I’m also posting recommendations on my goodreads page, https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/12096934.Lara_Sean.

2 months done: Writing/Life Update

It’s crazy to think that two months of this year has already flown by so quickly. Well, I guess not really that crazy when that’s how the months work, but you get what I mean. Time goes by so fast and if you’re not paying attention you might miss something. In case you missed it, here are some of the amazing things that’s happened to me in the last two months.

  • I became a goodreads author and my book can be found on the website here.
  • I’ve been reading more and so far, I’ve read 3 books this year which is significantly more books than I read by this time last year. My goal is to read 23 books by my 23rd birthday in August, but I’d be happy with at least 20 books by the end of the year.
  • I’ve been working out 3 times a week for the last month or so and I’m actually sticking to it.  I haven’t lost much weight yet, but I can see a difference in the way I can walk up and down the stairs without needing to catch my breath. I’ve also seen a change in my strength and stamina and for me, that’s what really matters.
  • Speaking of things I’ve been keeping up with, let’s talk about this blog. I’ve actually been posting semi-frequently, at least once a week and sometimes more. I’m glad I got to a point where I stopped stressing about blogging. If there’s something I want to talk about, I’ll talk about it and if there’s not, well, I won’t have a post that week. Now, that I’m fine with it, I’m freer to post whenever I like which means lots of awesome posts for you guys.
  • Next, I’m thinking of drastically changing my look. I have an idea of what I’m going to do, but I won’t share until after I do it. You can try to guess if you like and I’m sure my version of drastic way be another person’s tame, but you can still have fun guessing.
  • At the end of March, I want to enter the Self published Book Awards hosted by Writer’s Digest. I’m speaking this into existence right now. I’m going to enter and I will win!
  • And finally, it’s time for my book update. I’ve written over 38,000 words of the second book so far which means I’m about half way done. My goal is to have the second draft done by the end of this month, but realistically it won’t get done until the end of April. I still want to shoot for the end of March, though to keep it challenging and give me something to work towards. I’ve said this at least a thousand times before, so I guess this will be the thousand and first time. I love writing. I love the process of creating a book and planning out what will happen. As I’m working on the 2nd book, the 3rd and 4th book are coming together in my mind and I’m backflip-in-the-air excited to write all of the amazingness that’s floating in my mind.

That’s all I have to share. Let me know if you want to see more of these update posts. Also, be sure to let me know the posts you all would like to see. Oh and if you haven’t been told yet today, you are amazing and I hope you’re having a wonderful day.

From the #1 Rule-breaker,

My

Oops! No Storytime with My this week

You may have noticed the lack of “Storytime with My” this week. And last week, too, but we won’t talk about that because I actually have a good reason this week. Instead of reading the short story I write live during the hangout, I want to try memorizing and recording it as its own video. The main reason I want to try is because as you saw in the last hangout, the connection goes in and out, so you all couldn’t hear a couple of lines of the story. I also don’t want to have to check every few minutes during the show to make sure the connection hasn’t gone bad, so I feel that this is a great alternative. On March 6th, I will have a new “Storytime with My” for you all and I don’t want to toot my own horn or anything, but I think it’s going to be a phenomenal performance, so get ready.

In the mean time and to make up for missing yet another week, I’m going to share my book outlet haul. If you follow me on Instagram @luv2rite1922, you would have already seen this before.

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From the top: Blue Notes by Carrie Lofty; Meant to Be by Lauren Morrill;  Wild Bill Donovan: the Spymaster who created the OSS and Modern American Espionage by Douglas Waller; Stella by Helen Eve.

As you can see, my reading tastes are a little all over the place. I think I either want to read Meant to Be or Stella first. I’m not sure, but you all will be the first to know.

From the #1 Rule-breaker,

My

P.S. While you’re waiting for next week’s Storytime with My, you can check out my book, click here for the paperback and here for the ebook.

P.P.S If you haven’t noticed already, I’m doing this thing where I sneak in a shameless promotion of my book every so often. Feel free to ignore if it gets annoying, but know, somebody has to do it if I want to be recognized as an author. I promise not to do it all the time or I’d even annoy myself. Alright. Just thought I’d let you know. See you next time, rule-breakers!